Jan 19th 2009
Dan you are now owning what you want...Desiring it with passion, Believing it with intent and then letting it all go. Happy to have you here. The above statement ( mantra) is what you live everyday. When you have opportunities and things come your way you are going to check into your mantra and see if the occasion is congruent with the mantra. Is this opportunity or happening really something you want to own.. so you desire it with passion.. if so then by all means pursue it with full enthusiasm. Since one of your missions is to enhance your education I will be endeavoring to use language that encourages that. My favorite Tantra book is Desire by Daniel Odier.. some time this year I would like you to read it several times. It is a book that no matter what seems to change every time I read it.
Jan 23rd As we discussed part of our agreement is that you will not disclose how much you are paying me. You will not disclose what you learn from me unless it is something you have heard me teach in a class before. You will not disclose information about me that I share with you. I, in turn will not discuss your process with anyone else unless I ask you and you agree. I would like you to journal along the way and I would ask at that you be available to write things as testimonials that I would be able to share.
Jan 29th I would like you to make a list of all the things you have always deeply desired and not attained. Also a list of your weaknesses and what processes or thoughts you use to keep yourself stuck. Please email me these before Monday.. It is looking like I will be coming to Vancouver for the weekend of the 7th, so perhaps we can have some time together.
Feb 1 here are a couple of things for you.. you may know most of this but check it out and see what pieces you don't.
Premature Ejaculation Ebook
homework from dan feb1st 2009
deeply desired things *a friend who you can call and talk to about anything, life long, complete trust, always there for you, accepting of you not they aren't being negatively critical, someone who would call you on your stuff, there is reciprocal involvement, completely comfortable, no reservations, feel happy 90 percent of the time when with them, similar lifestyle and tastes, a little more outgoing but not over the top, physically capable, any gender (with modification) but prefer a man. Edwin... is his friend, Aug 5th 2009
Has 25 percent after 1.5 year
-awesome likable personality & charisma
Dan current points leader april 25th 2009, May 09 won his 100 lap race his car broke the track record... Championship forget about it... 10/2009
feel uncomfortable explaining it to someone, haven't practiced telling people about myself, feeling awkward.... stumbling, (Feb23rd) people are interested in what I have to say and I am happy to share that with them.. (( dan talked with psychologist last week and said it didnt appear that he was struggling a bit with words..))
I was extremely shy didn't have any friends in school, hang out in library, hide out, was made fun of, friends in kindergarten to 3 grade, friends left, moved, abandonment issues ( I want you to treat everyone as a best friend )
*****you far more interesting than the average person, so use this to your advantage********
*people have called me weird (2) ( let's call that interesting) own business and make more money than most people, race cars, machine shop, tow truck, and have things others don't have... don't aspire to normalcy, be who are you... ( sept) I have moments of greatness, and sometimes still shy
-procrastinate - why do it today when I can do it tomorrow / I'll have time later sept still doing this with accounting , working on doing better here, procrastinating was a 3... sept 7
was a 9 ( completely negative ) now sept a 4
cutting down a little
self care is better..wasa 1 sept a 6
Being more conscious about this
Homework...go out and take an opportunity to tell people you own a business and drive race cars, be open to a best friend in everyone. See how comfortable you can be with anyone.
Feb 9th Dan explores the bubble... the secret is genuinely liking people...
women,evil bitches, controlling, manipulative, sad, horrific, jealous, incompetent, stressed ,despair caring, lovely beautiful gorgeous artistic. menassholes, mean, aggressive, violent, prohibitive, distant, angry, wary envious, mysterious, tormented, leaders, organizers, doers peopleuntrustworthy, im skeptical, perplexing, i find people concerning,
These ideas can be replaced with...
womenawesome, beautiful, intelligent, majestic, amazing, good, perfect, cool, interested, intellectual
mensmart, nice, strong, resourceful, intelligent......fun, helpful, calming, resilient
peopleinteresting, caring, giving, helping, truthful...... awesome, exciting, competent
Active meditation
look for good in people as you are with them
stepping into leadership role LST, accountability Moving forward means de clutter and make sure everything you own services your highest purpose, your goals and dreams. Make me a list of things that are currently cluttering your life. (Here is the list from feb 16th...) vehicles... scrap price to elevate to get rid of junk cars. ( waiting for scrap price to go up) there are 38 vehicles ( get to less than 10) make sales lists of saleable cars (in action...) give rob a birdog fee room with junk... clothes, furniture, paperwork ( done) 6 filing cabinets for paperwork will stay in storage room ( done) furniture junk it clothes to bedroom ( done) paperwork, lifetimes worth ( done) computer hire someone to come help (Dan did it) coins todays currency dan's going to roll coffee table get a desk make a little office area ( no more pizza boxes) kitchen needs move in and organization ( kitchen done 3/2) ( done) junk in the corner two weeks for the house 3/2/2009 make a date with your house. extending date for house 3/16/2009 decluttered the shed ( now its organized and dan needs to get rid of stuff in it he doesnt use) decluttering the shop, shelves and organization ( get help from jeff) barn 20 x40 car parts ( put times to do this a few hours a week on the calendar, divide into 3 piles) garage at mom's (Negotiating the other race car right now) Hired someone to work outside and do the shed. 3/16/2009 Live in your integrity and the universe gives you its integrity.
Dan highest purpose is.....
teaching something? self improvement? making friends made me cry... personal connection what is your footprint in the world, you can not help doing it. a theme that reoccurs in your life, when you do it or talk about it, it makes you internally smile.
Contemplating going back to school... going to check out information session.
Business keep your business and have a partner with someone, passive income but still management position. grooming Jeff for this position, one year away from stepping into this space.
Does this thing serve my higher purpose?Is it attractive to my personality or my soul?
Feb 16th 2009
Dan, regarding women its about fun... stepping up the friendship with Alex. Action plan ... going to start going on dates. 2/23/2009 make intention more clear.
What does Alex do for you???? Dan taking a step back to see what happens. 2/23/2009
Feb 23rd 2009
Dan's week in review.. Dan was holding court at an outing! kept stepping into the bubble of conversations. and meeting tall blondes on the street
Dan noticed a difference in pictures taken from this event.
This is dan's assignment completed...
Types of relationships...one night stands intimate partner friends with benefits dating with sex moving in the direction of commitment relationship longer term with intent to marry to have a family
Write me definitions of the above.Please email me your list of desires for a mate.
one night stand
assignments for feb 2nd..
Must have's versus icing on the cake... redo this list in a different format.
Keep working in decluttering and breaking into the bubble...
Dan tell people you are sexy....
march 2 2009
had date with Alex, seemed good..
experiment with receiving during your sex life. self care..going to dentist stretching... aerobics p90X doing daily for 90 days. get to the physical end of April cutting back on sugar, work on eating more natural food Back to working on PC's muscles but make sure there is a relaxation phase. try ejaculating less.. ever second day. creating sexual elegance with dan the man...
Revised list of desires for a mate loves exploring culinary delights
march 9th 2009
Issues with Alex and communication. Questioning her integrity. Dan is going to make a plan to get what he needs. First priority is an open discussion... to assess the relationship potential
questions to ask.. are you willing to make me a priority in your already busy life? What kind of relationship do we want together, and what does that looks like in terms of time, other relationships. how do we move forward in a way we can trust each other? trust is integrity thats acceptable to us... be consistent with follow through and actions. feeling comfortable with each other, no feelings of resentfulness or anxiety ( these feelings are self generated) Can you become the man again in this situation.. talk and let her know what you expect from this. Step up and be the man ... Dan... reestablish your purpose.... in your life. get back on track... your life priority. dont become a workshop junkie... focus here on our program. segue into talk about sexual duration...
homework... work on self pleasuring.., and getting into bubble and defining the relationship with Alex..
March 16th 2009 Dan was a social butterfly this last week went speed dating at a tall event. Had one match. Lunch with Jason, ordering healthy choices. weight goal 225... alex and dan in an open relationship friends with benefits. Had a date with brenda, went well and going to see her again.
Use breath more often breathing in sync harmony... build rapport breathing in opposition causes an electric charge builds up energy for sexual polarity.
dan wants to have a fun energy... role model... jason Might be helpful to have date venues at your fingertips.. compile a list of things to do, when they are open and if you need reservations... know if its spring break...
my dad talks for me.. been this way his whole life. I fall into the child role with him. I want consideration from my Dad who is a self proclaimed asshole and I ended up role modelling this. have an authentic conversation with him about how you want to be treated. using I feel statements. have a conversation with him next Monday. Dan had a moment of self love.. created tingling...
March 24th 2009 conversation around intimacy.. show me your and Ill show you mine. dan wants to have fun... doesnt want to waste energy pondering and worrying about things. Dans perfect world he wants to know everything. what need does it fill... previously filling a void because of lack of own personal life. this is now a habit. having second thoughts about commitment to alex in long term relationship. taking a step back... have fun, enjoy the moment. This is a very good idea, great job Dan went on a date with brenda, had a great time. work on elegance, work on the slow seduction.. make specific compliments, make the slow dance memorable.
March 30th 2009
Need practice in fun and playfulness and elegant language around compliments and conversation ( we are going to work on this on the 4th ... why women do the things they do.... So pick some topics to read about so you can get some books on them travel mexico europe, italy, germany, balkin states, norway, spain, iceland, switerland nepal, eygpt
Look into more morrocan, egyptian and those culture decision to go places is about food and culture.. cuisine italian food, mexican food, thai, japanese read food critics for language to use food, look up sexy food verbage. Read out loud and talk to self to increase verbal comfort. lavish, scrumptious, mouth watering, succulent, delectable,
Hire someone to prepare food to put in the freezer, contemplate this.
Pick a few magazines on topics that interest you, psychology, travel, cuisine, human body, Get the book. The body has a mind of it's own. sandra and matthew blankeslee Bookstore date. Alex said she wanted to paint the scene of dan and her friend and orgasm... she said it was beautiful. Alex was upset that dan was dating brenda. Looks like she wants to move to exclusivity. Looks like love is in the air... good going Dan beautiful text and story to Alex, in the 3rd person.
Become the man, not the boy. Contemplate the story and the words used, and if you can make the comittment of love, then come from a place of strength.
April 7th 2009
Finding that Alex's character is flawed. She lies to everyone pretty often. Untangeling from the drama of Alex needs to happen. Dan makes the realization that drama is better than nothing. Dan likes to stir the pot because any interaction is better than nothing. Embarrressed that his interactions are more antagonistic than not. What to do with Alex? dan isnt going to jump ahead in the relationship, or direct it, and dont let his emotions get the best of him. gauge by action not what she says. Dan isnt going to peruse but let things evolve as they do. JUST SAY NO TO SPY EQUIPMENT... date people you trust. GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN... Action plan. address the brittany thing by saying mexico is fine. dont instigate or plan things around when she might be available. Practice complete integrity by letting her know what you are doing now. let her know you get involved in your life, but you welcome her call or text if she's around.
How to elegantly pillow talk versus dirty talk..
The drop dances across my lips, my tongue fondles the moisture. I inhale the musky smell of ancient times. My body swirling with delight I undulate, pulse, I sway back and forth. Urgently I carress the drop pulling it deeply into my froth. I sigh with contentment... and raise my lips to the sky once more.
Take some of your most popular bedroom lingo and convert it to something Tanja would like. Concentrating on not stirring the pot with LT or anyone else. Living in gratitude daily. Make a gratitude list. when you see your beauty you will be the idol of yourself.
April 13th 2009
Dan went covert and found out Alex is living with someone ( her ex) went to her house. Liz was lying as well. The whole thing is ugly. Trust instinct earlier and act on it. Dan needs a life. Cultivating more male friends and female friends. looking into the areas you already have interest in. Judo, and racing. try this site. when you are moving away from.... something like fear of being lonely, it doesnt work out as well.. moving towards something you want is far superior. Move towards getting your life in order and your life purpose. Self care.. dentistry, working out, weight loss goals are working house is looking better Read Desire, re do your wants list for women. Compliments from the neighbours about house and the yard...thats got to feel good. Do not dwell on Alex and that whole senario please.
April 20th 2009 Integrity list, then make a plan of action and time line. Taxes, making installment payments to catch up and right now is costing money and could be audited. Action plan... get this caught up on the 28th.( done) Action plan to stay current.. hire an accountant in May to look after all this ( done) Us waiver application, put application together and mail it.. Action plan...today its going happen... ( done) Stephanie clean up... Action plan..write email ( done) Random calling people to gather intell. hence all the cell phones 3 phones still, only needs 2.. Action plan: call banks... make a list of people to contact with new number. 3 outstanding tickets, could lose license, having them in the court process.. Action ...go see a lawyer Dan is not stirring the pot.... but this feels empty, so using pizza to fill up as well as things listed below. Working on breathing when feeling angst this generally works.
Dan is driving like a psycho madman did it for the excitement. Make him feel alive, but getting less of a rush so amping that up. Stupid fast, gotten to a point that it isnt working anymore.. gotten a few tickets, and dispute them to stall paying them. Driving is a violent expression...Venting a frustration about the Alex situation and being angry at self. Angry at self for living out of intergrity and doing all these things. This is not a good idea, not going to do it anymore. Action Plan... drive the truck, stop driving psycho ( racing is helping) covert missions, searching facebook. pizza, fast food Moving away from pain doesnt leave good choices about moving towards you want. Reading Desire, enjoying it, going to re read it again. Dan is done with driving psycho, covert mission, calling people. Action: keep pizza limit... 4 times a week.. Establish a life and having friends. Action Plan...Tap into resources already there. Write out a list Getting off the couch, everyday, looking to move forward towards things that fill your soul and make you feel amazing!
You rock Dan! keep up the great work I am proud of you..
April 27th 2009
Dan had a good time racing, won his race. WOO HOOO GO DAN!!! Sent the waiver in Stephanie emailed and said she had a dream about him. There were emails exchanged, Dan was terse, he was mad because she contacted him. He would rather it would go away. Still hurt from it cause she dating someone else and didnt tell him. Dan feels lack of trust of women and that no one has integrity. Write Stephanie and email closing the door. Read the Four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and the mastery of love. Dan is moving towards friendships and doing other things like dancing. Dan feels more comfortable being social, more conversation skills and empathy for people. People recieve Dan more openly now. He doesnt hate them so much. Feeling a little standoffish... need more tools to greet people. tools for meeting people are about taking the action. You have to just do it! Stand back and look around at people and see a positive and then approach the person with that positive. Or just simply introduce yourelf.. go and start introduce yourself. Find a rookie and mentor them. Write to me about Desire.... You learned that focus on the bigger picture instead of the details. You are doing great Dan!
May 5th 2009 Dan is not taking the race car technicality personally. Eating too much junk food to fill the void, not working out.. too many big macs. Took salsa lesson and liked it .. join Edwin out dancing. Talked about money and dan is doing well in this area, balanced. Jeff is going to help the workout process Dan thinks english is tough cause there is a lot of homework. Going to try a new mens coaching program called social fluency, negotitated a good deal with them. working on developing friendships within the interest group you have already.
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May 11th 2009 Dan won his race! This was a 100 lap. Going for championship
The art of being happy... moving towards something If I was happy.... people would react better I wouldnt be concerned about other what people thought I would get what I want I feel better, physically and emotionally I would be in a different state, I would be glowing radiance of positive energy Who I know who is happy... Jason is sometimes happy People who are getting what they want versus who are happy with what they are doing. Changing the focus to loving self instead of being happy. To love one self one must live in intergrity. this is the key to being happy (Dan not sleeping well because of Alex... going on for weeks) get into bed with note pad and pen write down all the things you need to do and get done for the next day. breathawareness onto Iphone and listen to it and go to sleep. If you wake up early and work out... ride bike 30 minutes and listen to audio books or dvd's of inspiring things. Do some stretching. Dan has fans!!! signing shirts for kids and people coming up to him and saying great race. Working out increase self love... Define some ways to meet people and be social dance go early and mingle and get into the bubble.. and find out where people are going to practice.
May 18 2009
Where is your passion? Improving self... need confidence in subject manner to speak passionately, embarrassed to be seen passionately engaged in conversation without having a great depth of knowledge. Learn thoretically before hand to feel comfortably. I say that talking to someone passionate is way more fun than talking to someone who is a talking text book. I want the fun!!! Let go of the fear of not knowing everything about the subject and dive in and talk and if someone knows more say Great, tell me about it. I want to learn! You want a likeable personality, what does that look like? feeling positive about them , trust them, they are an awesome, great body language body language tight body, and tight jaw are a give away of tension. Tension is sacry. Being the kid on the playground who is open to life is what is attractive laugh love and sweat everyday. Go out and own who you are, instead of trying to fit in to average, be the brilliant, smart, funny and likable man you were born to be!
May 25th 2009
Dan got penalized for bumping an opponent. Was having a bad day and got angry, things were not connected. Everything was frustrating even days before, feeling pressured about the car, worked on it. what are the lessons in this? keep cool under pressure, action.. breathe, step out for a moment better planning.. didnt have enough help not taking anything personally and using humor moving away from the fear of losing... was feeling invincible but expecting the outcome to go poorly because cant have too much success. dans dad said pride comes before the fall. last week was all about bringing up dans weakness Let's work on the underlying anger that is present in your life. Dan's looking for the key to gain access to others worlds. I am: disturbed angry unhappy unhealthy tired worn down unconnected displaced hopeful succesful humorous intelligent resourceful systematic logical caring helpful good teacher still reeling from the alex thing move towards hopefulness about relationship tangibily stay in balance during the week, make better decisions over all for a longer term gain, sleep regularly, eat well, stop obsessing, Learn to recognize when this is going to happen, when you start looping, What tools are you going to use physically to use stay balanced. establishing a routine to get outside of your head and into your body, remain balanced. This is about self care, self love, supporting your highest good, treat yourself like your beloved. is this how I would treat my beloved? Write me out a routine, that includes times to breathe, times to play, times to work out and eat healthy, and get outside and socialize. Sunday Practice ejaculation mastery at least 3 times a week Approach women and ask questions about what they want from men, June 8th 2009 Dan blew up his engine.. got his best time ever in the time trial. dan was driving too agressively, needs to work on patience, work on being more. needs help with the car work, has an antagonistic relationship with the car. Good news he got his black belt. Dan needs help, things are falling along the way side. Get more organized financially, letting things fall behind. others dont care about me why should I care about myself? Other are never going to care about you more than you care about yourself. have a love affair with yourself. eating breakfast better food choices sleep and work out and read the pe book and keep talking women about they want, and find someone to help with work on the car. get bills paid. Tanja is damned serious about your progress. June 15th 2009 living a preventitive life.. when under pressure seems to be in perfectionism mode. Be proactive in life... Start to work Start to make your life more scheduled. Had a good time with social fluency. Dan is perplexed about women and relationship. Getting caught in the Alex.. making sure that there is the realization that alex wasnt a relationship but a casual sexual thing can put it in perspective. Work on self care routine and loving self right now June 22nd 2009 dan went racing with an older motor. People banded together to offer help and get him going. Been following more of a routine. Appreciating self more, recognizing negative self talk and correcting that. Usually beat self up about not getting stuff done. biggest challenge, maintaining the racing program. lots of time biggest challenge socially, be included in the bubble. be more present in the moment. feels disconnected and then thinks about other things. Fathers day with dad, had trouble talking with him. Dad is not being the best dad he can be, Went to the LT seminar and didnt talk to others. Keeping outside the bubble. How would you want someone to befriend you? Dont be aloof when someone speaks. go ahead and make eye contact and just be open. You can say. Im dan and hey hows it going? Your mission this week.. is to talk out loud to yourself and tell yourself about what you are doing. whats the sound track of your life, perhaps there are different ones. listening to music. Hanging around the house Fleetwood mac you make loving fun.... hanging out sing, the driving song, the going out song, and the race day song. Where are men failing you ladies? Ask men what do women really want? being geninue we can let go of expectation, be in the moment and let authenticity shine through. July 1st 2009 read voice of knowledge by don miguel ruiz. found out rental house was warranted by police cause of pot growers in the house. the house will probably be condemmed and knocked down. Communication is the result, watch for body language and dont make the goal the end all of the event. stay tuned to the other person. cascade... I remember .. good mood music AC DC ..thunderstruck race day song Show Cor... bone crusher...race day show Find a couple of new buddies to go hang with.
What is it going to take to get you on track with your commitments. Get the routine solid... stopped working out, not eating right.
keep a time log of the week... write out a specific work out write out a food plan you will bring in a reflection of yourself for beloved so use that as motivation when you want to eat pizza and not work out and rebel against taking care of yourself. Look at the crisis and the themes for clues to what going on in your life. We are going to work simplifying life next week. Get to your reading list.
July 6th 2009 The drug house is taking a toll on Dan. Didnt work out cause he was working hard at the house. Made an effort to eat breakfast even if it was out. So with all this crisis going around, whats the theme. Dan didnt take care of the house, business, taking care of car, and self care. Got distracted by Alex. Feeling crunched financially. What is the plan.
1st priority Self care eating better, just have to do it. working out, sleep, social time. Business remember to remind yourself that you excellent at making money... get back into the sales, go visit customers pick a day like fridays and take someone to lunch, starting this week.
Rental house dont have to work so hard, no hurting self. find out more info on how the city operates on this, and depends on how to proceed. dont not let this take over your life... 2 hours a day.
Race car..put this on the back burner for this season. get the engine in your car. might be forced to get rid of all the cars. July13th 2009 Self care is paramount because it lays a foundation for all other things. You can create/influence outcomes. How? Fear drive negavity, and panic and brings chaos, which creates an even bigger event and your thoughts become focused on the worst case senario. we get what we focus on. Bringing new opportunities... many people have come forward to offer help, and offer resources, and apologies. There are people from the racing community, so dan feels as though he has a tribe. dan feels empowered to accept offers. Manifesting is easy if you have the keys to the understanding. live it, it speaks it, believe it. gratitude is paramount, how often do you feel gratitude. feel grateful for just being. replace employee and renting basement suite. write out a manifesting document about the employee and the next renter. selling cars this week, sold some yesterday. What different thing socially are you going to do this week? Let go of fear of meeting people, more open and more forward. Focus on the gratitude for the seemingly mundane aspects of your life and then amp up the feeling emotionally. July 20th 2009 by thursday bowflex treadclimber put together. grocery store tonight, cleaning up dishes use the dishwasher, gettting caught up with mail, bills and things ( usually on fridays) planning the day talking to self dan was grateful for mundane things rental house is on the block waiting for more info. went to jasons birthday party, felt awkward... talked with a few people. dan went to a meeting, master mind, with darren jackling learned some things about investing. going to contact odin, and see what is up. set goals with edwin about self care... only drinking 1 sugar drink a day. every other day on the treadclimber. dan is feeling more self love, less stress, feeling happier. the self talk is better, giving self more permission to make mistakes. ask for what you want, increase circle of friends by asking other people help with it. July 27th 2009 Dan uses breakfast to sit down and decide how im going to be... make the choice Dan feels much more appreciative and grateful and you see the love in people. ( this made Tanja cry) Read "the 4 agreements" and liked it, will read it again. dan wants to work on relating to others. dan feels more relaxed around people, and less tense.. this a body experience of feeling positive about others, no longer in the realm of intellect. this week journal your experience of how you got to self love and seeing love in others. about your perception. less self judgement means less judgement of others. changing the agreement with self.. thought people were automatically judging him, because he was judging himself and others. relate to others as you want to be related to... feel it in your body, open to your expression Aug 5th 2009 Dan is exploring self love and seeing love with others. Dan had a great lesson at the track about his reaction to people when they dont validate him. During the week Dan practices compassion for someone whom he didnt respect before. wow... Dan enjoy being in service to others, and practicing compassion. I am inspired by Dan and am very proud. How do you want to treated as a best friend? going to approach people with love and compassion. going to help paul some more. August 10th 2009 Dan is still practicing compassion and love. How you do this is how you do everything. I want you to contemplate this sentence. Still helping Paul with his 72 truck and helping the other Paul as well. being in service. Just let go, get out of your head.. breathe dont need to get it right... just show up... follow up on kelly and with jason. August 17th 2009 read the mastery of love.. complex and will re read. to love yourself must surrender. Tell edwin about your journey to help him open. Conscious breathing is the ultimate act of self love and care. When feel what you are authentically feeling you are practicing Tantra. Dan is going to ask his Dad for acceptance, and help Edwin from compassion. be gentle with your feelings about asking your dad. I am very proud. August 24th 2009 Edwin has his feelings hurt. Big deal was an issue at the track after his car made a huge impression at the track. Dan has learned to not back down. How you do this is how you do everything.Is your car in alignment witn your integrity. be vunerable, lead from your truth.... Talk to Paul tonight be open... Hasnt talked with Dad yet, is still looking for what he needs from his dad. write down how your dad hitting you has affected you in your life, and then schedule a converastion with him about this. Be open ..not angry. August 31st 2009 Dan had a profound experience healing with his Dad. Was open to talking about past abuse. His Dad apologized to him for his abuse. dan forgave his father. I asked Dan to not compartmentalize the racing and his life. Where is he in integrity in racing and how does he live impeccably everwhere. Talking to his ex and wants to be friends. next up on the plate.. what do you need from your mom? im so very proud and inspired.. way to go! SEPT 9th 2009 Dan stepped up to become Street Stock Director. If you cant beat them then become them. This is in alignment with Dan desire to be more social and interact with others. Dan went out to Vancouver just to walk around like usual and 3 strangers talked with him. This is not typical. Dan has made an intent to see more love and to walk in less fear of people. Create a intentful process. Dans great lesson is that he wants and needs to interact with people and feel and give love. we did a claiming excercise about Dans needs... Homework...create a process and then go out it into action and see what happens, Sept 14th 2009 Tanja computer crashed... lost all info for this meeting.. dan took notes. Sept 21st 2009 Dan went racing and had an incident.a guy went sideways and Dan ran into him, then afterwards the guy threatened him. Dan says he could have handled this better. Dan has cleaned up his car, its the most technically by the book that it has been. racing as metaphor for spiritual growth focus on whats important make sure things are working make sure nothing is stuck or binding Dan did his homework... the process is... breath first and get relaxed, get cheerful and positive energy www.hsintao.com get the video Sept 28th 2009 Dan got Hsin Tao video. Did well at the races and working on the process. Everything is an opportunity for relating.. talk with Lee anna as a liason to women and relating. Hair dresser Jessica... interesting tattooed chick.. tells dan he is intense and hard to read. Sat is championship day... Dan is going to kick butt.... Oct 5th 2009 Stressful weekend, lots going wrong... championship weekend.. tow truck broke down, had to change things up... but made it there. Dan got pulled out and told to change his car up, he did that and then had to go race without being able to work on anything. he tied the track record, drove like a demon, never had a race like that. Dan won the main race. But then the tech wanted a cylinder and dan is waiting to find out the ruling, if it isnt in his favor he loses the points he made during the year. take a step out of racing... and just do the tech... check out events and adventures type thing for socializing/ Good work Dan!Oct 14th 2009 we are going to be talking about ejaculation mastery and getting a handle on this. Dan feels he is starting at the beginning. start with pc muscles work and doing self pleasuring, breathing relaxing. just go to a level 7.
do this without, porn or fantasy.. just stay tuned into your body 1. breathing 2. relax body, especially lower 3. flex pc muscles 3 levels, flexed, neutral and push out 4. start to self pleasure all over your whole body, touch yourself everywhere, arms, legs, chest, dont get caught in your sex organs 5. bring sexual energy to the 2nd chakra to level 7 6. dissipate energy to a 1 or 2 7. bring it back to a level 7 8. and do the cycle over again 9.experiment with flexing pc mucles while at a 7, try neutral, flexed and or pushed out and see what it all feels out. 10. do 4 cycles and end in low phase 11. see where the sexual tension lies, are you irritated, are you tense, are you feeling great! 12. note the feelings in your body, not just the sex organs. 13. breathe deeply throught the day. Have fun Oct 21st 2009 Happy birthday last sunday!! Dan turned 37 dan made it from friday till tuesday w/o ejaculating.. sat irritated, and progressing through the process you noticed women more and some noticed you more. noticed sexual non-existentant after depletion of energy. if you add sound to waves when they are happening.. waves felt healing except when they got block at the throat... energy was helpful when doing things... train as if you were making love. focus on relaxing and making sound... when the energy is high get up and physically jump around and make noise. 4 days.... last week w/o ej going for 6 days this time.. life is divided up by business increase sales, wanting to sell business, in negotiation currently moving to something more fun, starting another business, becoming a developer. investments/finace hobbies focus on the less racing, more on the tech side relationships build an online dating profile need prof pics... plenty of fish, and match.com successfully go dating family concerned about mom's drinking and her abusive boyfriend made huge strides with dad goals and aspirations
have heartfelt converastion with mom... based on I feel statements...
still struggling with relating with others... 1-10 scale in the beginning was a 4 now a 6.5Oct 28th 2009 race car politics pervail and dan is still in the think of it. dan is contemplating why these things happen is the grand scheme of life. possible from feeling negative about people. dan still feels somewhat negative though better than in the beginning... he can still flip flops from time to time, especially when there is a challenge like this race thing. how can dan deal with the tech guy. vision plan this experience from a personal and community stand point. what do you want to gain out of this personally? 1.car able to confirm to the rules... 2.bring rules current and apply consistency Dan has gone 8 days.. play with sound while self pleasuring and moving the waves. dan is planning to ejaculate consciously on day 8 and use the energy to manifest. Eros Ascending .. John Maxwell Taylor. good read. Nov 2nd 2009 Dan is sick... getting his rental cleaned up and probably live there. Race meeting happening and Daryl and Dan are going to play good cop bad cop. Dan will talk logically about points and daryl wants to take the tech guy down. Since last wed has not ejaculate, but not as much Dan has been stressed this last week with the house and the meeting. Use breathing count and hold at top and bottom. here dan reveals to me something that has been going on for the last month or so. dan emailed alex last month to ask for money that she owed him ( about (250.) and didnt get a reply, so he texted liz to let alex know about the email. liz pretended she didnt know who he was. then she said if this i dan go fuck yourself, if you bother us anymore we will go to the police. Then he sent another message to alex and said he wants resolution for the cash, and gave her a deadline. dan told her what actions he would take to get the cash. he said he would go through her friends and family to get the cash. Dan then contacted an ex of liz's too ask him to help. liz then freaked out and said dan had no right to do this. Alex in the meantime had contacted dan and apologized and then did pay him the 250.00. she started paying installment payments for about 6 weeks the mexico trip. dan apologized to liz about contacting his ex.. no contact. ran into alex last week. then he sent alex and email to open a conversation again. dan sent an email that was from the heart, and I like the reply. Nov 9th 2009 Dan did a great job at the meeting. Didnt make a lot of friends but is doing this for persoanl growth. He will continue to stay in his position to see more of the inner working of the executive and to be part of a solution, instead of part of the problem. This is a great opportunity to speak in public and to stand up in intergrity. On to Alex, Dan wants to have a relationship romantically with her. Here are some of the questions. state what you want... want to be in relationship with her. what does she want? if she says she wants to be in relationship... then what is her pattern in relationship and what is she doing to change that. not only what the answer is but how she answers it. this needs to be done in a personal conversation. It was tough for dan to be in the intensity and waiting to do something. how to use that agitation to work out, use the intensity to focus on other things, and breathing. once embarking on realtionship be the master of yourself not the woman. EJM was going well until Dan coughed, and that out him over the edge. Dan is feeling more in his body and getting energetic waves close to the point of feeling he might have an orgasm without Ej, Dan can tell how he feels affects how others feel about him. if he is in his head then things dont work out as well. dan can tell that women are being attracted to him. Dan has been helping Paul and his son. Nov 16th 2009 good introspection on the Alex issue, decided that he has always put in more then he got out. started looping on this whole thing didnt sleep one night and only three hours the next night. took his car for a drive and had an incident. the next few days every vehicle he has broke down. dan is saying this has taught him what it really means to be in integrity. that self care really is the foundation of it all. dan noticed a remarkable improvement in his driving this season because of his focus. start to have a better sleep routine get to bed by midnight and up at 6 and work out in the morning and see what happens work out routine... 45 minutes at 40 percent... fat burning 20 mins at 85 percent... cardiovascular stretch , hamstrings and butt. if you find yourself starting to loop... you will.. ask yourself is this worth it.. then take action.. action.. doing something physical. implant a physical anchor.... clap hands. let me know what direction you want me to go in the next while. Nov 30th 2009 business is slow and that is causing dan some stress. he is selling the business in negotiation pick a social club and two online dating profiles. focus in on relations and more women in life. dan going to work on 10 days of EM... people seem to still have some negative attitude towards Dan. Get out of your way Dan , they arent having negative thoughts about you, they are responding to your feelings about yourself. Dan use your keen observation skills during conversations, be open and vulnerable. Dec 9th 2009 Dan is having a fun time with the electric company and the old house. Used his skills on a day he was looping, went to working out and breathing. did some crying and felt better. the race committee fired Dan and then because they didnt like what he had to say they put him on probation for a year in racing. signed up for some events a day at the shooting range at meet market. speed dating.... dan made it 9 days... correlation between stress and arousal. when there is stress there is no interest in arousal. needs to find passion in something else. go take other classes. reduce stress around money and house. go talk to an attorney and get that start. back to working on 10 day to EJ mastery.
Dec 16th 2009 financial stress and feeling that the social thing is bad. dan was feeling badly about Alex and not getting paid and he sent a birthday text that was not very kind. dan needs to simplify his life in a very big way. He needs to get rid of the stuff. Create a clean slate and state. dan is ready to let go of the distractions and false security in his life. be gratitude of everything you have and everything you are going to let go of. Be kind to yourself and remember nothing has happen overnight. move forward with calling Rob and moving the business negotiations. call Paul and share a race program with him. Good job Dan moving forward and letting go of the past. Dec 21st 2009
Are you ready for an amazing experience like no other? Having self confidence as a man is a really good thing, arrogance is not. Being truthful is imperative and so is being reliable, you can take my word to the bank. Why am I the guy you want to date? I put integrity high on the list of how to live my life, and I believe women should feel safe with me. By the same token I know that you want to have fun and feel the spark we have between us thats adds to the excitement we have on our date. The place I can fall short on the first few dates is in the conversation department. I have a lot to say and I do not lack for interest, just getting it from my brain to my mouth around a good looking woman can be tough. So if I am a tad tongue tied with you, then you know I find you attractive. I believe in self growth and I constantly read, I really enjoy going to seminars and workshops on a variety of subjects from acting, personal development to Tantra. Not only do I attend events but I implement what I learn. I'm really big on self improvement. I work out and believe in self care but I am not a fanatic about it. Physically I'm not where I want to be yet but I'm actively working on it. I realize that if you doesn't put self care and love as a prority then you can't be there to care and love someone else fully etither. I love to travel and experience new things, like food and culture. These are just some of my passions.I am always open to tring other things and certainly want to explore what you enjoy as well. For a hobbie I race oval track stock cars. I drive my race car like I stole it! LOL! I have also been involved with Judo. More to follow... So for next time I want you to write about this last year and place to excelled and places you could have been better. A new list of objectives for the new year and then see if your wants in a woman list have changed.
Jan 6th 2010 I know we talked about actually had some deep converastion because I didnt get it written down. :(
Jan 11th 2010 Kelly wants to use him as a one night stand. Dan is ok with that. He went to dinner and had a good time with a waitress, Edwin was asking what was going on Dan feels on fire. Had a good time with a single events at the firing range. Asked kelly out for dinner and started making the plans. The Kelly date was a disaster due to kelly and her bitching. there is no way dan wants to have sex with her. Things to work on more this year are... be motivated and get out to meet people. clean up clutter and mess in my life.
Want to accomplish this year... sell my business have more amazing relationships with women, more successful date, more fun on the dates. Go ahead and make contact on the dating site 6 women this week. and set up pics. Jan 18th 2010 feedback from kelly good... dan messaged women this week. we talked about getting away from going out and approaching when nervous as this just breeds more nervousness and does not lend itself to success. do more things that you enjoy and allow the connection to come to you instead of forcing it. Jan 25th 2010 Dan has broken through with ejaculation mastery. Having full body orgasm with practice and then micro orgasm just walking around. looking at pics of women online dating site. Dan says he feels more aroused about everything and sees people differently. He is looking forward to finding a partner and practicing. I would like Dan to write or interview about this process so other men can be inspired to practice and why they would want to go through this. Continue to implement the learnings and create and action plan that is you can commit to daily. You are awesome Dan and I have loved this journey with you.
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